A sadistic person likes to cause pain, but the sadistic person in BDSM will stand out by seeking consent from their partner.
A masochistic person in BDSM, on the other hand, will find pleasure in the pain received.
History of sadomasochism
The word "sadism" was coined by psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing, based on the writings of Sade, a French nobleman known for his numerous convictions and accounts of torture involving a certain sexuality.
The word "masochism" was also created by Richard von Krafft-Ebing, based on the novel " Venus in Furs " by Leopold von Sacher Masoch.
Sadism and masochism were then considered only pathological.
Nowadays, sadomasochism has come out of the DSM ( Diagnostic and Statistical Manual ) , and is practiced by many people around the world.
Are those who like sadomasochism disturbed?
No, absolutely not, pleasure is found in many forms of physical and psychological interactions, it can be triggered in various ways depending on the individual.
It will be important to note that the pain and pleasure areas are very close in the brain, and also that pain causes endorphin, the happiness hormone.
S/M practitioners, seeking consent and sharing with others, generally represent people who are healthy and fulfilled in their sexuality, they will be more attentive to their partner, their feelings and sensations.
Sadism, masochism and consent.
The sadistic person in BDSM will seek to take pleasure in the pain inflicted on the other, but above all to share intense sensations with their partner.
This search for pain can be shared with a masochistic person, who will take pleasure in the pain received.
The couple S and M will be able to share intense practices and sensations, which will be able to link them to each other, with mutual consent of which dialogue will take an important part.
In order to consent or not to S/M practices, it will be important to develop empathy and to be able to discuss calmly and without judgment the desires, expectations and limits of each participant.
What is the sadistic person looking for?
The person finding pleasure in BDSM sadism can seek to feel what they inflict, to project themselves, and to develop their empathy towards the person to whom they hurt.
She may also enjoy scaring, impressing, putting the other person in a mental framework conducive to receiving his abuse, and finding pleasure in it.
Marking the other will be a crucial point for some, seeking to make the partner a living painting, or wanting to leave their mark in the very body of the person with whom they have shared intense moments.
What is the masochistic person looking for?
The masochistic person may seek to atone for past sins, to be punished in the face of a partner who will be merciless.
She may also want to feel this burst of endorphins, which can be as powerful as an orgasm, for a much longer duration.
Or even wanting to be a martyr in front of the loved one she reveres. Put your body in his hands and feel like you belong to him, body and soul.
Is there a power relationship between sadist and masochist?
Sadists and masochists are not particularly on the Domination/submission spectrum. As with any BDSM practice, there may or may not be a mixture of the other elements of the acronym.
A sadistic person will be called "Sadique", "Top" or "Donneur" (French translation of Top), they may also practice, for example bondage, and tie up their victim.
A masochistic person will be called "Maso", "Bottom" or "Receiver" (French translation of Bottom), he can be submissive to the giver, or be Dominant, and give orders on how to hurt him.
Some people are also sadistic and masochistic, just like the switchers in Domination/submission, they will enjoy both aspects of the practice.
In conclusion, whether you are a sadist, a masochist, or both, as long as you respect the consent of others and yourself, and that you inform yourself about the safety of your practices, you will be able to derive a lot of pleasure from it. a perfectly healthy way.
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